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There is a phrase “the only time success comes before hard work, is in the dictionary”. When I first heard that phrase it made quite an impact, and made me realize there is no short cut. There is no magical, instant way, and sometimes when people do achieve overnight “success” for example in the case of people who recieve huge media attention, it comes as easily as it goes. True success is in general achieved with patience, perseverence and dedication. As I said in my last blog, I posted 17 blogs for the month just gone and therefore I intend to increase my output to 34 blogs for this month.

1. It is good to set yourself targets.

Setting targets puts you on the right trajectory to improve yourself, and in fact if you fail to achieve your planned goals you will at least achieve far more than if you had no targets.

2. Divide  your targets in to different components.

To ensure the realization of your targets it is of course best to divide them in to different tasks or different time periods. In this case my goal is to produce 34 blogs this month, and to make it clear by no means am I planning to do copy & paste articles where I merely press “Ctrl C” and “Ctrl V”, I want to continue doing what I have been doing and that is to produce quality articles, written in my own words, which contain with them things from my own personality, experiences, ways of expressing things and so on.

Ctrl C and Ctrl V, copy and paste twins.

 Image source.

The reason I have chosen 34 is that it is twice as much as 17, which is what I produced in January. I would also like to prove to my readers that I can push myself and produce the best out of myself. A month is essentially 4 weeks, so I will sub-divide this total of 34 posts over 4 weeks which comes to around 9 posts a week. So I have a weekly goal of 9 posts.

This is an example of what we call a SMART target, meaning Specific, Measurable, Achievable/Attainable, Realistic/Relevant and Time-bound.

Image source. 

This also means thinking of 34 different things to write about. Some of this will be easy because I can write about events and experiences that happen to me and which are relevant to you the reader, not e.g. what I had for breakfast today. A lot of it will be about jewellery as my blog will start becoming more and more a jewellery-orientated one.

A pair of silver rings from my website, http://www.goldsher-jewellery.co.uk

However this all will require hard work as the emphasis is on quality, as well in this case as on quantity, to be specific, 34 articles/blogs a month, or just under 9 a week. However it will be fun as I enjoy the writing process as it is something creative, allows one to indulge in self-expression and also helps one to engage with, and benefit others.

One of the key purposes of this whole exercise is to lead by example. I can share advice with people on doing this and doing that, but how much of it do I do it myself and where is the evidence. The beautiful thing about the internet is it allows us to be more transparent and to verify things, so I want you to read this and then come back and see if I did indeed achieve 34 posts this month! Most blogs will be about a minimum of 300 words, some much longer. This blog is over 600 words. So 300 x 34 is around 9,000 words which is the length of many university papers or dissertations. So I am producing this amount of work, in addition to my day job, running my own jewellery company, www.goldsher-jewellery.co.uk and many other things.

Once again, everybody, have a great February! Everyone wished you a happy 2012, I’m going to go a bit further and wish you a happy February and still a happy 2012 after the first month.

– Jahan

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Mind diet, part 3.

In the previous two articles about the  mind diet we spoke about how keeping a healthy mind, and being careful about what you put in it is just as important as a normal food diet.  We looked at some important things that we should feed our mind on daily basis.

1. Abundance

  Focusing on all the positive things in our life, or all the positive events on that day, no matter how insignificant they may seem.

2. Relaxation  

 The importance of relaxation.  Relaxation is very important. Just as we need sleep to recharge ourselves, and just as sleep reinvigorates us and our biological system renergizes the body during sleep, so does relaxation whilst conscious.  It is a form of emotional cleansing.  Just as we go to the bathroom to remove toxins from our body, so our body does a similar thing when we relax, especially if we focus on all the tension, pain and other negativity we have mentally accumulated through out the day being released and going away.

The third mental “fruit” out of our “5 mental fruits a day” is entertainment/humour.


Humour is something important and has many health benefits to the extent that there are even professional medical practitioners who have opened their own “laughter clinics” or something similar such as Patch Adams in the USA and Robert Holden in the UK or Dr Madan Kataria in India.  There are physical benefits to laughing such as releasing endorphins, relaxing the body and its muscles, boosting the immune system, preventing heart disease, exercise for the facial muscles as your jaw and mouth open and are stimulated heavily, this contributes to keeping your face looking younger, whereas an overly serious, or even depressed person, will have a face that starts to age quickly, or even start to have white hair very early. Laughter also helps prevent heart disease.

So how does this relate to optimizing your performance as a professional, an entrepreneur or increase your personal success? If you have ever attended a professional seminar by some of the world’s top speakers including for instance Tony Robbins, you will notice that they always inject humour into their delivery. Robbins is a man who has even coached several US presidents. Laughing and humour is a healthy exercise which should be practised daily. Apart from making one feel better, it relieves anger and frustration. When someone is angry and upset they may make hasty or poor decisions in their anger, they may not have a level head and they may ruin their relations with other work colleagues through arguments. They may react to provocations more than if they were a bit more humourous and light-hearted and decided they could ignore bad or provocative behaviour.

This improves the quality of their executive decision making, thus it optimizes their performance. Think back to times when you were angry and made decisions or commited actions which you later regreted and realized only happened due to your anger. Can you think of any?

Exactly.  Now incorporating a certain amount of time in your day for humour should not mean that you trivialize or belittle what you do even if it is something serious. For example if one is a surgeon performing vital life and death operations then one should be careful and responsible, but however in order to optimize ones performance, one will need some light humour or entertainment during the day in order to bring the best out of you. For example, would it be better for the surgeon to speak to the relatives of their patient with a serious and stern look, or with a warm but sympathetic smile? Which one would inspire more confidence in the relatives? The smile would of course. Having a laughter exercise during your day, or in the night should not negate your desire to perform the job that you do to the utmost level of professional excellence.

If you see world statesmen, such as the US president or the Russian, British, French or other leaders discussing serious affairs which affect the lives of millions you will see that they will still have a smile on their face and engage in some light-hearted humour. These are people at the very “top of their game”, who are in fact the most senior, the highest, the top executives in their country, they are not heads of companies, but heads of whole nations.

Two heads of armed nuclear powers, Obama of the USA and Sarkozy of France, alongside Chancellor Angela Merkel of Germany in a high-level political meeting.

So whilst in the course of working hard during our day and being serious, a few minutes should be spent on humour, or some form of entertainment which relaxes us or makes us smile, whether this is a funny book, humourous. As with all things in the mind diet it is better to have an allocated time in the day when you are free and not working to do this. It is good to do this before you do your relaxation and abundance exercises as it makes those two exercises far easier. Humour is your third mental fruit of the day out of your 5 mental fruits a day.

Jahan Choudhry


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This is the second part of my article on the “mind diet”. The first part can be read here: https://jahanc.wordpress.com/2010/09/01/mind-diet-part-1/

Mind diet, part 2.

In my previous blog I spoke about the mind diet. I said that just as we need to be careful what we allow to go inside into our body, we also need to be careful what we allow to go inside our mind. We need to avoid harmful things going in to our mind, just as we do with our body, and also try to put in beneficial things in our mind, as we do with our bodies.

The mind and the body are related, and a healthy mind helps to bring about a healthy body as well, in conjunction with the right diet and exercise.

Just as we are encouraged to have five fruits a day for our body, I will tell you of five pieces of mental food and nourishment you should have a day to have a healthy mind (and thus body) and greater personal and business success.


1. Abundance

The first beneficial thing I stated that should be put into your mind is abundance.

“Abdunance”, basically means just taking a few seconds or minutes out to think about something good which has happened to you whether it is “insignificant” as someone saying thank you to something, arriving at work on time or even just having your sight, or something as major as winning yet another £1 million contract. Focus on good consistently and you will start seeing more and more good coming your way.

2. Relaxation

The second thing is relaxation. One of the biggest problems with this is people ask the question.

“How do I relax? I worry if I am relaxing correctly”.

Now, let’s look at that sentence again in a bit more detail.

“How do I relax?”

That is a question asking for more information about something you don’t know. No problem.

Then, “I worry if I am relaxing correctly”.

There is something odd with that sentence isn’t there? If you don’t know then before carrying on reading, keep on reading that sentence until you finally figure out what it is, and if after trying you can’t then carry on reading this article (trying to work something out, rather than being just told it, is exercise for the mind and makes you rememer that piece of information more than if you were simply told it).

Did you get it?

If you did, great! If you didn’t this is the “odd” thing about the sentence.

“I worry if I am relaxing correctly”.

The problem when many people try to relax is they worry about how to relax properly. This is what we call an oxymoron (a self-contradictory phrase). You cannot “worry” about how to “relax”, because relaxing is the exact opposite of “worry”. The correct way to relax is simply to do whatever makes your mind stop thinking and trying to calculate things out, but just relaxes and enjoys peace.

“Meditation” seems like a very heavy term, but meditation is simply when your mind relaxes and stops constant mental chatter. When you stop mental chatter you stop using the left side of your brain which deals with planning, organizing and maths, and your right side of your brain is functioning which deals with creativity and imagination.

There are different ways to relax, but the best way to relax is to do whatever works for you. For some it may be listening to soothing music. For others it may be lying down on the sofa, for others it may be a relaxing bath. As long as you are spending quality time, not worrying about anything, not thinking too hard but just calm and content you are relaxing and recharging your body.

For those of you who are going through serious problems, and might even be somewhat angry reading this information which you think does not realize how bad our situation is or trivializes it, and ask the question “how on earth can I relax?! I have to….pay my debts/find a flat/solve my arguments with my partner/get over my divorce etc”, then you have to understand the following. Saying you can’t relax is the same as saying you can’t sleep. Even when people have serious problems they will never solve them by saying “I won’t sleep tonight and just worry about my problems and that will solve them”, because it won’t.

Even these people realize that we all know rest and need our sleep.

Therefore if you can find time to sleep you can also find time to relax, even if it is just 5 minutes of listening to relaxing music, lying down, enjoying the fresh air in a garden or a bubble bath (it is better to relax with your body resting somewhere and your eyes closed), because that 5 minutes is 300 seconds and in that space of time your bodys blood and cells will be circulating more smoothly.

A relaxed individual is one whose performance in life, work and in business is better than a nervous, worried or agitated person. A relaxed person is one who inspires confidence in us all. So the second part of your mind diet is to incorporate a daily 5-15 minutes of relaxation in your day, whether it be in the morning or evening, and as well as relaxing you can also focus on positive things at the same time.

All of this will help you with increased personal success and also optimizing your performance as a business executive or professional.

In my next article I will speak about the third element in your “mind diet”. In future articles however I will speak again and in more depth about both “abundance” and “relaxation”.

– Jahan Choudhry.

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In order to improve your current situation whatever it is, you must realize that change is possible.

Disbelief in the possibility of change is dangerous as it leads to inaction, continued dwelling on your problems and worst of all a hopelessness and despair and a belief that nothing can change, which can ultimately end in a very severe way.

However no matter what your situation is, and no matter how bad it is, change is possible.

1. Believe in the possibility of change.

This is the first step and will give you a lift. The mind and the body are connected (this is a recurrent theme in my coaching) and so physically too your body will get a lift and more energy when you accept this.

2. Change is immediate but gradual.

You can change certain things immediately, especially those within your own personal control e.g. the way you think and so forth.

The ultimate change which you seek will take time, it will be a gradual and incremental process but it should be a snowball effect.

Remember this change, is a journey and you should enjoy this journey, this adventure.

In my blog in later posts I will talk about powerful techniques which will help you to realize your goals.

– Jahan


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This is for you..e

For you who are in a hard time now and wish to get out from your difficult situation.

For you who may be in deep debt and wish to enjoy financial freedom.

For you who are starting a new business, or wish to start one.

For you who feel demoralized and not respected by people.

For you who feel that you are not respected at work or even bullied.

and this is for you…

regardless of where you are, who you are, what you are…

The future starts now.

Change is possible.

You can change your situation and if you really want to, you will change your situation and you will succeed.

– Jahan Choudhry


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