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In this article I am going to talk about anchoring and “anchors”. Now I am not referring to the anchors that you see on ships or boats, but an even more important and common place type of anchor, which all of us are subject to.

A stylized anchor.

This anchor is a psychological one. It basically means reproducing a state or emotion when you see or think of something that reminds you of a particular moment in the past. In the context of motivational psychology it means something like the following example that I will present to you. You had an exam, a very important exam which you found very difficult. A lot depended on it, if you failed you could possibly suffer or your ambitions would be wrecked. You did the exam, then later you found the result. Not only did you pass, but you passed with flying colours. Your body releases certain chemicals, these chemicals actually have a positive health benefit on your body and if by the way such a state of emotional high and positivity were to be reproduced on a very regular basis it would have an amazingly positive impact on your body, phsyical health, emotional health and ultimately success.

An elated student.

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Coaches that train people to produce their best, such as motivational coaches, sports coaches and others often use this technic. They get their client to remember a positive event in the past. A lot of the time it can be a huge obstacle or difficulty with great rewards as in the aforementioned example of the student who passed a difficult but important exam. Coaches reinforce their clients belief in their ability to overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles and challenges by remembering similar situations in the past where they actually achieved their goals.

The law of attraction and anchoring.

Many people are familiar with the law of attraction, which in some ways is essentially basic common sense, as you can see from some of my examples in this following satirical, but serious article, click here to read, though however it should not be dismissed so easily as many so-called rational “sceptics” do. The key thing to remember with the law of attraction is that in addition to trying to attract what you seek, you will also need to do lots and lots of hard work. I for instance have quadrupled the hits to my blog in the short space of a few weeks by posting over 20 blogs in less than a month. Hard work does pay off, ultimately. To read another blog of mine where I spoke about the law of attraction, please click here.

When you constantly “anchor” and reproduce and recreate those feelings of success and achievement you had in the past, you are in effect going in to a state of positivity which will help (with the hard work required) to attract more of that success.

The more you remember and engage in the positive euphoria of previous successes, the more likely you will attract future successes.

In future blogs I will elaborate more on this very important and powerful technique.

– Jahan Choudhry

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Today I want to share with you all something that a friend and associate of mine discussed a while back. Here in the UK there is a television celebrity who used to be quite famous a few years back. Her name is Rachel Elnaugh.

Rachel Elnaugh.

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Elnaugh at a business event giving advice.

Elnaugh is a self-made millionaire and entrepreneur who started a business from her bedroom as a young woman in Scotland from a modest social background, and made it a huge success. She rose to national prominence starring in the famous British television series, “Dragon’s Den”, which is where people who don’t have much money but great ideas go and propose their ideas to a group of potential  investors or “dragons”. Elnaugh was one of the dragons. Unfortunately Elnaugh recieved bad publicity as her company went in to administration. She is however now involved in helping people to start up businesses and realize their ambitions.
 
One point which my friend told me she said, and is completely valid irrespective of who said it, is that problems are often the default state in business. In my own words let me elaborate on that. When ever you start something major in life, it will never go smoothly most of the time. When something is ordinary it is usually not hard to achieve and thus you are just a normal person no different from the common mass of people. However when you want to be different, for instance financially very comfortable and able to live the sort of life you want, it requires hard work and persistence, it is these two key qualities which often differentiate achievers from others.
 
When you start a business, you will find nothing runs smoothly. You will have all sorts of problems and difficulties from the most basic e.g. the photocopier has jammed for the 100th time and cannot be fixed until next week meaning you can’t do essential paperwork, to something far bigger such as a recession. Problems, problems, problems……sigh.
 
 
 
 
 
Problems, problems, problems. However the problem with this is you. Problems are inevitable and are the barrier which separates the successful, the achievers from the rest. Problems should not be expected, they should not be anticipated in fact they should be looked forward to. If you do not have problems in your journey to success it will seem less eventful, more boring and you will appreciate it less. You will grow less as a person. If you have lots of problems, which you overcome and do not make you quit, you will:
 
– Learn more about the world and life in general and grow as a person.
 
– Be able to empathize and put yourself in the shoes of others who have experienced the same, thus making you a far more substantial and well rounded person than others who have not.
 
– Develop confidence in yourself to deal with problems and become mentally stronger.
 
Problems are thus lessons, and they should be seen as part of the adventure. Let us take the example of two motorists. One lives in a picturesque idyllic town where all the roads are perfectly laid out and driving is as easy as turning on the tap. Then there is a formula 1 driver, who is driving in a grand prix. There will be many challenges, difficulties and it won’t be easy. However fundamentally he enjoys the challenge and the adrenaline. Successful people are more like the second type. By that I do not mean they are adrenaline junkies or wild. What I mean is that they enjoy what is challenging rather than resist it or shun it.
 
 
 
Nor do I mean that you should deliberately go looking for trouble, or for problems or for danger. If you can achieve something and there are two ways which both work, and one is easier and trouble-free go for that one. What I do mean is that do not expect a smooth ride. Realize there will be a rough ride at times, enjoy the challenges and ultimately enjoy the great rewards that lie at the end.
 

Highly successful and multi-millionaire formula 1 driver, Lewis Hamilton in a glamorous car.

 

Millionaire, Hamilton at another event.

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A Hamilton smile after one of his victories, the sweat on his face also indicates the hard work he put in to win.

So there will, as I  have said, always be problems. They are often the default state. However as long as you are going in the right direction and have the right spirit you will utimately prevail and gain success.
 
– Jahan Choudhry
 
 

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The picture above is from one of my facebook contacts and I enjoyed reading it and wanted to share it. It contains an important message and it very much struck a chord with me. Those who know me, work with me and interact with me will find that I seem like a very positive person, and quite happy. The question then is have I ever experienced pain and suffering, and the answer to that is just like everyone else on this planet I have. In fact I have experienced things that other people have not. However my experiences have made me stronger and more resilient.

Self-pity

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I had the choice to engage in self-pity and negativity, to dwell in that, and subconsciously want and even expect sympathy from others. Or I had the choice to be pro-active, to not engage in self-pity or being stuck in the past and move on. I chose the latter.

Now there are other people out there who are “turned off” by positive thinking and want to be negative and complain. A lot of that actually stems from laziness, that is not to deny that there are people out there who have suffered immensely and will take a long time to recover. They in fact dislike people who are too positive and there is a degree of jealousy.

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If you have been following my recent blogs you will know that I have been talking that nothing is achieved without hard work, and that I myself am seeking to demonstrate this by writing 34 posts this month. All of these 34 posts must be original work of mine in my own words, must be 300 words minimum and must provide some sort of value or benefit for the reader, so far this is my 13 post so I will have 21 more posts left until the 29th February which works out at roughly 2 posts a day from now on.

Hard work = no time wasting = no time for feeling sorry for yourself

Now hard work means that you will be busy, you will be preoccupied, that you will be stretching yourself to meet deadlines, targets. When you are doing such a thing time is very precious and must be utilized in the best way as possible. Wasting time is a complete and utter NO NO. You simply do not have time to engage in unnecessary and unproductive things. One unproductive thing is too much thinking or wondering as opposed to DOING. Time waits for no one as the image above says. Successful people do not have time to feel how bad life has been to them and what a horrible place the world is. They are too busy making the world a better place.

So I do not apologize to anyone for being positive, and nor does it come from a lack of experiencing tragedy, because I have.  However I will be positive and so should you, because it will help you, it will give you good health, energy, confidence and ultimately success and by helping you it will empower to help others.

Just because I chose to laugh does not mean my life is easy, just because I have a smile on my face everyday does not mean something is not bothering me, I chose to move on and not dwell on all the negatives in my life. Every new moment gives me the chance to renew anew. I chose to be that.

Cody Mccasland.

 
– Jahan Choudhry

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2012 is starting out very well.

Earlier today I wrote a blog on how my article on the “follow me” generation was the first out of 272 million pages on Google (UK version that is), and if you click on this link you can read more about that. However another piece of good news which I am focusing on and dwelling on, as I have said always try to dwell on the positive as much as you can whilst retaining a balanced, healthy but analytical (as opposed to overly emotional or despondent) view of failures or problems, heavily. Anyway I am referring to the fact that another piece which I did, namely about “stating the damn obvious”, which you can read if you click here, was the first out of 300 million webpages.

Below is the printscreen which you can click on to view carefully which shows my blog the first out of 300 million webpages on Google, something which I am extremely happy about especially when you also bear in mind that 300 million is also 0.3 billion.

So here it is the printscreen, click to get a bigger view if you need to.

So once again I can only say to my dear readers that when such a thing happens, no matter how small it is you should spend more time remembering it, appreciating it and getting an emotional uplift from it than the amount of time you would spend on focusing on the negatives that happened. Many people get caught up on focusing on what is going wrong rather than what is going right, simply because what goes well for us far, and I mean by an absolutely massive gap, outnumbers what goes wrong for us. It is however that we take what is going right for us for granted. It is like the miserable and ungrateful husband who eats his wife’s cooking every day which she prepares for him but he never values it until the day she says she is not cooking for him.

Anyway once again, I will be posting the pictures of some famous personalities with smiles to capture my current mood so you can get a taste of how I’m feeling and you too can be affected by it.

Matt Damon smiling.

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Basketball legend, Michael Jordan smiling.

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Always celebrate your successes even if it is just internally, no matter how small they are and you will see more of them coming your way.

Have a great day which ever part of the world you are in!

– Jahan Choudhry, writer of “stating the damn obvious”, which was no.1 out of 0.3 billion webpages.

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