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I, Jahan Choudhry, am not a millionaire, but I am in fact a billionaire.

Let me elaborate on how I am a billionaire.

According to Forbes there are 1,426 billionaires in the world. Click here to read the article.



1. Carlos Slim

According to this article, Mexico’s Carlos Slim is currently the richest man on earth.

Slim started off his professional life as a trader and went on to become a tycoon in many different fields including construction, food, mining and many other sectors.



2. Bill Gates

Bill Gates is the universally known founder of Microsoft, a company whose operating system is on most computers around the world from California to Canberra.



3. Amancio Ortega.

Third in this list came Spain’s Amancio Ortega, Europe’s richest man. Ortega is a self-made billionaire who started off from humble beginnings in Spain’s Galicia region to develop global fashion giant, Zara.


So am I one of these 1,426 official billionaires and do I hob-knob with the likes of Carlos Slim, Bill Gates, Amancio Ortega and the other thousand or so billionaires in the world? Do I play golf with Carlos Slim and say “Carlos, mi querido amigo Mexicano que tal?” (Carlos, my dear Mexican friend, how’s things) or do I play cards with Bill Gates and say “Yo Billy Boy, howya doing?” or do I have barbecues with Amanico Ortega and say “Amancio, Hey wassup?”. Am I on first name terms with such people.

No I am not.

Nor do I necessarily desire to be, not that there is anything wrong with that and I am share there is much I can learn from them.

So the question is how am I a billionaire?

Wealth is measured in assets

Wealth is measured not just in monetary terms in  the sense of dollars or pounds or any other currency but in what you own. Many people do not even have a million dollars or pounds in terms of money but have a house, business or other properties which are accumulatively worth over a million and are thus considered millionaires. They are thus considered millionaires due to their assets.

I, just like you too, have assets which I regard as worth  more than a billion dollars. These include some loved ones who if I had to chose between a billion dollars and them I would instantly in a heart beat without hesitation chose them. So of course would you. They are more important to me than yachts, private jets, lavish villas or anything else. Thus I am a billionaire.

I, Jahan Choudhry, am a billionaire.

Being aware of this fact and appreciating the true wealth in my life allows me to put things in their proper perspective and allows me to be very grateful for what I have and of course to naturally realize monetary wealth and physical assets are not everything. I am sure Carlos Slim would give up one billion dollars to regain the wife he lost in 1999, Soumaya.

slim wife

Slim’s late wife, Soumaya, before her death.

Image source.

I am sure all of us would do the same. A loved on is an asset worth more than a billion dollars and all of us have loved ones whose lives are more precious to us than any replaceable or even irreplacable (e.g. unique pieces or art) physical objects. Thus I am a billionaire with assets, loved ones, worth billions, and so are you.


I am a billionaire.

You too are a billionaire.

Appreciate what you have, cherish it and smile.

Have a great day and thank you for reading.


– Jahan Choudhry, billionaire.

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I have spoken of the 5 mental fruits we should be having a day (https://jahanc.wordpress.com/2010/09/29/the-mind-diet-part-6/) which are abundance, relaxation, humour, mental exercise and learning.

In addition to consuming healthy thoughts and feelings we need to stop taking in negative thoughts and feelings, these negative thoughts and feelings are harmful and essentially poisons which we consume.  The way to reduce (no one can ultimately eliminate all negative feelings, and life is a ultimately a great lesson in which we always learn from having problems and challenges) is by having positive thoughts, a positive attitude and positive feelings. This sounds very vague and general but it can be methodically broken down into smaller, understandable parts. We can learn about thoughts and how to have positive ones, and about attitudes and how to have positive ones and so on.

Stress, its relation to “power”.

In my last article I spoke about one of the common harmful feelings which people have, which is stress. I explained that stress is essentially a form of fear. It is pressure on us to avoid an undesirable outcome. This is directly related to the degree of power we have over something. If I told you to switch off your computer, there is no stress because you are in complete control over this, whereas if I told you that you had to make sure your boss gave you a 3 week holiday, you would feel stressed, because you do not have power or control over this.

Some principles.

The more power we have in our lives, the less stress.

Stress is having little power to avoid bad outcomes.

To avoid stress increase your power and capability to avoid bad outcomes happening.

If I told Bill Gates he would need to pay $10,000 in one week to avoid being kicked out of his home, he would feel no stress. Why? His level of power, that is financial power. He can easily earn $10,000 in a couple of hours let alone a week. If however I asked millions of other people to pay this $10,000 or they and their spouse and children would be kicked out, they would of course feel great stress.

What is the difference?  The difference of course is power, or we can also capability, in this financial capabilities.

By increasing your power and your capabilities (be they financial, personal, confidence) you reduce the amount of things that cause you stress.

So in the long term try to be healthy and “powerful” (or strong) be it medically, financially, mentally, personally to reduce the chances of being in a situation which will cause you stress.

Stress and the “undesired” outcome.

What causes stress for some does not cause stress for others.  For some not being able to wear the latest fashions will cause them the “stress” of not recieving admiring glances and just being seen as an “ordinary” person. For others this is a non-issue. For some not getting the grades to get to Princeton or Oxford may cause them great stress.  In fact there have even been suicides by people who did not get the grades to get to prestiagous universities and would have had to “settle” with just “very good” universities, rather than “elite” ones.

Oxford University.

In that case, always examine the nature of your “undesired” outcome, maybe it is not that bad. Maybe it is not worth having stress about. Maybe it is something that you can live with. Always imagine the worst case scenario happening and think how you would deal with it, could you survive? There have been people who literally had nothing, no money and were destitute and worked their way to becoming millionaires, and thus getting the house, the partner and the lifestyle they wished. This is something which you, yes you, I am talking to you, looking at this screen right now, it can happen to you.

The other negative feeling which poisons our mind and thus our body, since everything that happens to the mind has an impact on our cells, skin and body, is upset. In my next article I will speak about how to deal with hurt and upset. If you can reduce the stress and upset in your life, you will be reducing the two main poisons, toxins that you feed yourself. I say “yourself” because you do not just affected your mind, but you as a complete entity including your body.

– Jahan Choudhry


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In my previous posts I have spoken of how:

Change is possible, that you can start the business you wish, or expand the business you already have, or clear the huge debts that you have, or generally improve your situation.

See: https://jahanc.wordpress.com/2010/08/24/the-future-starts-now-part-2/

The power of the mind, which I will speak more about in the future, and how it is related to the body.

See https://jahanc.wordpress.com/2010/08/25/the-mind-and-body-are-connected/

Now I am going to talk about the first specific thing which you need to do.


Every successful thing, be it a person, building or organization is based on a very solid foundation. In order for you to be successful, or more for successful, you need to lay that mental foundation. The first thing which you must do is what we call “Self-acceptance”.

One of the best writers on this topic is Andrew Matthews in his work “Follow your heart”, which I actively encourage everyone to get a copy of and read.

Self-acceptance means accepting yourself as you are. It means removing the idea from your mind that there is something fundamentally wrong with you, or your life. There isn’t.

It means that you can look at yourself and say “there’s nothing wrong with me”.

You can be overweight, there’s nothing wrong with you.

You can be in debt, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Have no formal education, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Be single, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Have experienced great pain, be it financial, emotional or even physical, there’s nothing wrong with you.

Look at yourself and accept who you are. It doesn’t matter what you look like, whether your short, “ugly” (no one is ugly and everyone’s tastes are different), aging with white hair, divorced, not popular as others or anything.

Everyone has an issue.

Everyone, and I mean everyone, every person on this planet has an issue, or a cause for complaint. This could be the Royal family who may feel they are missing out in not knowing how ordinary people live and relate to most people, or be percieved as out of touch. If you look at the biographies of most successful people (a quick browse through wikipedia can do that) you will see that everyone of them was afflicted with a problem in some way.

What self-acceptance means…

What self acceptance means is that you unconditionally love and accept yourself for what and who you are. This is in the same way you would love a member of your family regardless of how successful they are, regardless of what they look like, what they wear, what job they do, how much pain they’ve gone through and so on. For you, their external appearance would be immaterial. This is how you should accept yourself.

You are you.

 There is only one you.

 No one else will be special enough to be you and to have experienced the unique combination of feelings, events, people, places that make up your life.

What self-acceptance doesn’t mean…

It does not mean not wishing to make yourself better. It does not mean that if you are overweight you don’t try to lose weight, what it does mean is you don’t hate yourself for being a bit plump. It doesn’t mean being happy about any failures you’ve experienced, but merely means it happened as such things happen to everyone but you love yourself and accept yourself in the way you would love and accept your brother or sister if the same happened to them.

It does not mean not trying to improve yourself. Far from it, you must always seek to improve yourself.

Don’t beat yourself up…

When you don’t accept yourself and look at yourself and say “Look at me..I am this, I am that…I am ugly, I am in debt…I’m useless at this….so and so is more popular than me in the office, why does he always say thank you to her and not to me! etc, etc” you are actually beating yourself and in some ways quite literally.

The thoughts and feelings that we have make an impact on the body and leave an effect even on our cells, which is why happy people are healthy people and sad people have weaker immune systems. When you look at yourself and tell yourself, your life is horrible, you are no good, the world is unfair, you don’t get this and you don’t get that you are hitting yourself, you are punching yourself and damaging yourself.

The fundamental non-acceptance of yourself and unhappiness with yourself is like a hole in a boat. No matter how much you try to do with that boat there will always be a leak until the hole is patched. So no matter how you try and improve yourself or do things, or read different books, or attend different seminars, that hole will always be there and you may wonder why despite all your attempts to make yourself feel better there will be an unexplainable factor which still makes you feel miserable.

In coaching there is a technique called the “Emotional Freedom Technique” which is a method of touching parts of your body whilst repeating an affirmation that you completely accept yourself. I knew someone who used to do this and in fact actually used to teach it, however it was quite clear that it was not working for them as they themselves did not truly believe in it. This technique however if applied correctly does work, however there is an easier way to get the same result and that is merely to accept yourself for who you are. There is nothing wrong with you.

Self-acceptance and branding…

This blog in addition to being a free personal coaching blog,  is also for business coaching. How does all this relate to the world of business?

Each person is a brand. Brands are not just multi-national companies or famous labels but also people. The ideas and image that people have of you is your brand image. In business in order to be successful you need to inspire people’s confidence. Companies such as Mercedes,  Cartier, and others spend millions on marketing and sustaining their brand, fortunately for you, you do not have to spend anything more than you normally would.

The first step in creating your own personal brand is to accept yourself for who you are. If you are unhappy with yourself, who and what you are it will on a very cellular level (even at times subconsciously) project itself and be seen by others. I will speak more about personal branding in the future, but suffice to say it does not mean having to look ultra-glamourous. Bill Gates is not as good looking (to most, appearance is completely subjective) to most as Brad Pitt, but Bill Gates is far, far wealthier and a successful business person.

Bill Gates, one of – if not the – richest men in the world.

Brad Pitt, more glamourous than Bill Gates but with a far weaker personal branding in the business world than Gates.

Looks, sex, race or anything similar are not important in creating your own successful personal business brand. Nor necessarily do you have to be super-intelligent, though of course you must be willing to learn and willing to work very hard.

Successful British business woman, Debbie Reynolds, on the right,  who started and now runs her own very set of successful sign language schools. Reynolds has hearing difficulties.

Health benefits…

However the fundamental reason for self-acceptance is not merely being successful in business, but the benefits it has on your overall life including your health. Self-acceptance will stop you from beating yourself and thus damaging yourself, your body and quite literally its cells will be more relaxed, and you will be calmer, more positive and more productive.

Self-acceptance is the first step on your road to success.

– Jahan Choudhry.


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